Hi there.
How's your day going?
I hope that you're having a nice day.
I was thinking today, about a lot of different things.
Mostly of relationships, and what happens when we stand up to wrong things.
I'm not out there to get at people, nor am i out there to agree with it.
I've had my own doubts and my own struggles, and I've come to the conclusion that God is the only one to rely on.
I'm going to come out with some very bold things, I've decided not to come with being on any one's sides. or being a victim of harassment.
God has given us voices, and I was thinking of David and his battle with King Saul. he was even related to the Saul, and yet Saul was bent on killing him.
Do we know why?
Simply because God departed and put an evil spirit in him.
Now, I'm going down that road, that everyone has a evil spirit in them, that's not my point at all.
When we don't care about God, we struggle why other people don't care about us.
No matter how much people want to influence us, we have to be careful of how we come across, in our manners, in our daily lives.
In the last week, I've really think I've grown up in this area.
I was praying on my day off, how I can be an influence by showing people what God looks like.
I look out for those people at work, who need God, or who need a bit of a smile in their day.
We are good like that in the kitchen, and it's a core of what we do, because if we don't care about our work, we don't care about the food we do.
And it comes out in how we present it.
Food is our friend not foe.
I was caring for our homesick worker, and I looking out for him, not in a romantic way, but i knew he was homesick, someone took that way too far, and started to harass us, to the point, where it was blown way out of proportion.
Now I'm not an egg shell person, I don't mind a bit of light teasing, but this went on for 3 weeks, and i put a stop to it last week, and the person that I was concerned about thanked me, because he too felt very bullied by this person.
It turned out that this person, has very low self esteem.
And I fear that other people didn't like it, because they just told him what they thought of him.
so it made him feel worse.
I decided to go down the honoring route, because if I just agreed with it, it wouldn't go away, it would just resurface.
It's important to take time out for yourself, because if we don't we can ruin our relationships, and what trust we have built over time, and the respect.
And if you care about yourself, you care about others, if you don't care about yourself, you slip into the ''woe is me'' type thinking and it's very hard to get out of that trap.
And I want to say here, that it's so important to get good friends around you to point out in tricky situations what to do in times that you've found yourself in.
Perhaps you want to agree with others, because that's easy, but if you actually point out what's wrong at the time, and say it wisely, not ''it's all your fault because'' that's just going to fuel the fire.
God is there, and he will give you the right words to say at the right time.
The reason why we struggle with respect, is because we don't really respect everyone, we disrespect things, we use people to gain our esteem, hoping that they won't know what's going on.
I knew what was going on, and I told them, that i knew, and man the whole kitchen stopped.
I'm not wanting an apology, I'm not really waiting for one either, some people just feel like that they can't say sorry, and that's fine. what I want is, to move forward, to learn from it, and to be a good chef, and shine God's word to come out of it.
If we are in that dark space, when we have flash backs of times that are dark, perhaps we haven't been brought up in a very encouraging place, that's OK, we can take it and learn from it.
It's when we come up with excuses why it won't work, why this oh it's this, oh my I'm tired, oh this is a pain, we go to God with it, and we hand it over to God.
Excuses can become our snuggle blanket, we go to it make our self feel safe.
The truth is hard to see, but it also sets us free, and we can be from from labels that people place on us, or things that we get told.
If we mess up, we can say sorry, and we can love that person, but being nice to that person, and aren't sorry, only makes that person wary, because the trust is broken.
So what happens now?
We've seen for ourselves what we're like, we know the things that aren't nice about it, we have flaws, when we see them for what they are, we take responsibility, we can take them we go to God with them, and we love them, then it starts to heal.
Suddenly, when you see that you're OK, and that you're not running to your safety blanket, you don't need it anymore.
You are a victor not a victim.
You've all ready triumphed over the biggest battle.
My encouragement for you today, is, what ever you find yourself in today, this week, this month, this year, even in the surprises, in the things that come at you as a shock.
God is with your in the storm, he is looking out for you, even if you're eyes aren't above the waves.
You will come out of it alive.
Chloe
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