Being patient

 How good are we at this?

When we live in such a microwave enviroment, when we can heat things up in the next 30 seconds, and we can have it.
Or we have a credit card, and we can just whip it out and swipe or pay wave.
Or lay-by?

How good are we when we on our patience scale?

We might be thinking '' oh yes, we're way above anyone else with this.'' they are way down at minus 0 and we're about a 9.

How many times, when we have friends around and they are half an hr late, and we are getting edgy and anxious, and all that, then no appology no nothing.

it takes time to program our day in, we might not do anything, we might just have a day off and not do anything or think of anyone inparticular.

It might just be a loaded question, and you want the answer now.

Bu they might take time to get back to you,  I remember when I met someone  I thought that they were fantastic,  i was blind I was telling him all this stuff, and I just didn't really know how to go about it.
I was taking advice from my friends,  he was 33 years old and I am 31 we are both chefs so we know how the trade works.

But it become clear, that when I tried to ring him, on his phone, he only wanted messenger, and texting, and not ringing that he doesn't feel the same way as me.

I was giving it all out, but not getting anything in return.

There wasn't a spark, and I was camp leader trying as hard as I could, with my little flint to make it spark.

To open up like that, is risky it is risky why?

Because you don't know how the other person is, you don't know what they are thinking, it might be something it might not be nothing.

I was checking my phone daily minutes seconds, facebook messenger, everything, then I suddenly realized that this thing is making me sick.

It took my focus away from my study it, from what I am called to do. To succeed in my cheffing life, in my trade to use my knives in such a way to put up good dishes.

not to be obessed with my phone, or messenger.


So we've had a week away from contact, and I have to say that it is freeing, it is freeing why?
Because more and more doors open up, things start to work, and when you know that you know that God is in your life and always has been.

So my words to you, is if you're new to this dating, getting to know someone,  don't try to so hard that it exhausts you.

You have to let it go, and you know the Lord is the only one that can use his super natural ''sand paper'' like spirit to  rub off those edges that you have and make them smooth.

Chloe